Do these things simultaneously, and the world is your oyster. Here is my approach. Follow it to create anything you'd like. It's the closest thing to a magic potent that I've got. No matter what life throws at you, you'll not only get through it, but THRIVE using this approach.
1) You are powerful, and you can create ANYTHING you'd like. What you put energy into (and think about) expands.
2) So take control of your thoughts. BUILD the mindset you need to support your goals. WRITE it down, and repeat it daily.
3) When you feel off track, LISTEN to your feelings. Let feelings exist, and discover the message they are sending you -- it's important.
4) BE there for yourself always, as a soft place to fall.
5) TAKE bold action daily. And LET GO of controlling results -- NO ONE controls results, only ACTIONS. So take smarter, better actions.
6) TWEAK your plans weekly. Back to the drawing board is how great inventions and accomplishments are created.
7) CELEBRATE. At the end of each day, reflect on ALL you are grateful for. What did you kick as at today? Perhaps you did something new, or handled something better than before. Great things happened today (big and small), but you'll be blind to them, until you SEE them. What great things happened for you today?
Possibilities that weren't possible for you yesterday, become possible with this approach.
To go into depth and learn how to do all of the above in detail (there are processes for learning these things), contact me for phone, skype, or in-person sessions or workshops in Manhattan. www.yourdreamslifecoach.com for rates.
Monday, August 29, 2011
Friday, August 19, 2011
Focus, See, Believe -- 3 Steps to Get More of What You Want!
FOCUS, SEE, BELIEVE.
Want to get more of something? Money, love, time, health, friendship, fulfillment? Deep answers from within? More fun? A better home? If you want to get this now, there is one step you can do TODAY that will move you much closer to it.
1) Focus on it.
It sounds easy, but simply shifting your focus to what you want speeds your time to get it. Start thinking about it. See it in the world today!
What we focus on, we find ways to achieve. It becomes easy, because WE SEE IT show up in the world. What we ignore, doesn't exist in our world -- we are blind to it, even if it is showing up ALL around us.
We can't notice everything at one time. So due to necessity, we only SEE what we've decided to see. We're BLIND to the rest -- for example, how many yellow t-shirts do you see in a day? Have you ever noticed? If you haven't focused on this, you've been blind to it, and you have no idea how many yellow t-shirts are out there. However, if today you put all of your focus on counting yellow t-shirts, you'd be amazed how many are out there!
Another example, how many flowers and plants do you see in a day? 10? 20? What color are these plants of flowers? Chances are, you have no idea. You're blind to what you don't notice, and this affects you dramatically.
Right now, check in with yourself and ask, "What do I focus on?" and "What do I ignore?"
*Do you notice only the "bad" aspects of your body?
*Do you notice only the unhappy people in the world?
*Do you insist there are NO "good" men or women left in the dating pool?
*Do you focus on the lack of jobs and the bad economy?
*Do you insist that all jobs have horrible hours?
If you focus on these things -- that are lacking -- you will find your own life lacking. You'll find a lack of health, happiness, potential men and women to date, and jobs -- these things simply DON'T EXIST in your world, and you'll complain about it often.
So SHIFT your focus! Focus on 1 new thing TODAY.
For example, if you are single and want a great relationship, don't focus on the gossip stories about people cheating on each other -- you will become BLIND to healthy relationships. Instead, count the happy-looking couples you SEE today. How many couples do you see who appear to adore each other?
If you hate your job, look for examples of professionals who appear truly content and happy. If you want more money, look for people who have money, or examples of people making a lot of money, or think of rich people.
This ONE shift will guarantee you will get more of what you want, because it will remind you that it's POSSIBLE once you see the inspiring evidence that others have ACHIEVED it. We don't tackle tasks that are impossible -- so first, you must FOCUS on what you want, to SEE it appear in the world, to BELIEVE that it's possible for YOU.
Give it a try today! :D
Want to get more of something? Money, love, time, health, friendship, fulfillment? Deep answers from within? More fun? A better home? If you want to get this now, there is one step you can do TODAY that will move you much closer to it.
1) Focus on it.
It sounds easy, but simply shifting your focus to what you want speeds your time to get it. Start thinking about it. See it in the world today!
What we focus on, we find ways to achieve. It becomes easy, because WE SEE IT show up in the world. What we ignore, doesn't exist in our world -- we are blind to it, even if it is showing up ALL around us.
We can't notice everything at one time. So due to necessity, we only SEE what we've decided to see. We're BLIND to the rest -- for example, how many yellow t-shirts do you see in a day? Have you ever noticed? If you haven't focused on this, you've been blind to it, and you have no idea how many yellow t-shirts are out there. However, if today you put all of your focus on counting yellow t-shirts, you'd be amazed how many are out there!
Another example, how many flowers and plants do you see in a day? 10? 20? What color are these plants of flowers? Chances are, you have no idea. You're blind to what you don't notice, and this affects you dramatically.
Right now, check in with yourself and ask, "What do I focus on?" and "What do I ignore?"
*Do you notice only the "bad" aspects of your body?
*Do you notice only the unhappy people in the world?
*Do you insist there are NO "good" men or women left in the dating pool?
*Do you focus on the lack of jobs and the bad economy?
*Do you insist that all jobs have horrible hours?
If you focus on these things -- that are lacking -- you will find your own life lacking. You'll find a lack of health, happiness, potential men and women to date, and jobs -- these things simply DON'T EXIST in your world, and you'll complain about it often.
So SHIFT your focus! Focus on 1 new thing TODAY.
For example, if you are single and want a great relationship, don't focus on the gossip stories about people cheating on each other -- you will become BLIND to healthy relationships. Instead, count the happy-looking couples you SEE today. How many couples do you see who appear to adore each other?
If you hate your job, look for examples of professionals who appear truly content and happy. If you want more money, look for people who have money, or examples of people making a lot of money, or think of rich people.
This ONE shift will guarantee you will get more of what you want, because it will remind you that it's POSSIBLE once you see the inspiring evidence that others have ACHIEVED it. We don't tackle tasks that are impossible -- so first, you must FOCUS on what you want, to SEE it appear in the world, to BELIEVE that it's possible for YOU.
Give it a try today! :D
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Economic Problems and Facing Our Fears
An article I wrote in 2008, that I believe is still relevant to the situations we fact today (this was used as a podcast on Trans4mind.com).
Economic Problems and Facing Our Fears
By Julie Melillo
With the recent collapse of two Wall Street giants, speculation of doom seems to hang in the air especially here in New York City. Between gas prices, politics and financial crisis, it's amazing anyone seems to be able to get on with their day. And my clients are definitely feeling the strain, with the situation affecting their careers and pocketbooks.
In spite of all of this, I want to point out something. Tragedy can be a time of great growth. Our lives, dreams and families don't have to be demolished -- they can instead take flight.
That might sound crazy, and yes, you're right that Wall Street does affect Main Street -- all of our Main Streets. And yes, the economy is all linked together, etc, and it may trickle down. But that does not mean your life is ruined. It could even mean the opposite.
Times of tragedy are times of change. There is nothing inherently wrong with change, but bringing in something new does always mean letting go of something. We associate letting go of something with sadness, and so the situation seems bad.
But all times of change really are, is a reminder that it is natural for life to be in constant flux. Life is not stable, for all of our attempts to make it that way. And accepting that it is natural to need to adapt, to continue to grow, to re-assess, will connect us deeper with what it means to be alive and human. It can even connect us closer together, as we remember we are alive, and we are not so far removed from natural forces of life.
Instead of clinging on to what material things we have, let's instead remember to let go of the fleeting things in life that are never really ours. And hold tight to what matters.
We don't have to be victims of the world and the evening news. We have a choice to do things differently. Each of us are alive and we all have a shot. Why not take it?
You logically know you are not actually sitting still. You know the world is moving. So don't resent this fact. Or get angry at Wall Street. Accept that we are all surfing here, and we need to do our best to be strong enough to ride out the waves -- the easy ones, and the tough ones.
Change happens so gradually most of the time. We don't notice it. Like the turning of the earth or the smooth transition from season to season -- but growth is always there. Sometimes these changes are sudden -- we lose a job. We lose someone we love. And other times, these changes are gradual -- we become unhappy at work. A relationship becomes distant over the years. But that change is always with us. Even when nothing appears to be happening, things are still changing (both inside of us and in the outside world). We never stop growing and the world doesn't either.
It is the nature of life to change -- empires rising and falling, ocean waves swelling and crashing, financial charts increasing and decreasing -- this is the nature of life. We don't need to be victims of nature and the outside world. We don't have to cower with fear as we list the factors we can't control. There will always be things outside of our control. But we are extremely powerful as individuals, once we decide to be. We can choose to make a choice -- our own choice.
The less we cling on to the things we can never really "own," the more free we will be. And the more we take charge of our lives, assess what is there and what is not, see situations for what they are, and keep our dreams in sight, doing what is best for our happiness and that of our families -- doing all of this in the midst of whatever is happening.
Humans have been through terrible times, and Wall Street is not the worst of it. So let's be happy for the strength, intelligence and adaptability we have as people -- and find a way to harness difficulty and turn it into success.
The outside world, as big as it seems, is not as large as the human desire to live happily. And nothing can hold you back from getting what you want if you choose to make it happen, regardless of anything else. If you own it and take responsibility and accept it, both for your own mistakes and the world's, there is a way.
"The caterpillar thought the world had ended, and then he turned into a butterfly..." --anonymous
Copyright © 2008 Julie Melillo
Julie Melillo is a Certified Life Coach in Manhattan. She coaches in-person in the city and offers phone and online coaching sessions across the country. Ready to make your dreams happen? Visit her web site: Your Dreams - Life Coaching.
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Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Want more success and happiness?
Want more success and happiness? STOP ignoring your feelings. When you dismiss your feelings, you dismiss YOURSELF. LISTEN. Ask "how do you feel?" and "why? What happened? Why are you upset?" Listen. What is the message? Ask "What do you need?" And then take action to meet whatever need that is. Taking a small action will make a HUGE difference in how you feel today. Try it!
Most of us (especially my CEOs and business clients), feel they THRIVE on ignoring and dismissing their feelings, to stay "logical." Just the OPPOSITE happens actually! The more you bottle feelings, the more likely it is that they'll result in rage, sobbing fits, rude comments to others, passive aggressiveness, etc. You LOSE control of your emotions when you bottle them. Deal with your feelings on your own, and you'll be in control of how you handle situations with others.
My client today was a good example. A very successful and logical woman, she'd felt for over 10 years a need to "nest" and feel "settled." She'd ignored this feeling, until she got to such an unhappy point she could no longer stand it. Yet, she still wanted to bottled it. "Let me get this emotion out real quick, and then we can disregard it," were close to her words. It should have been, "Let's discover this feeling real quick, so we can use the vitally important message it's sending."
The message her emotion of sadness was sending? She needed to feel nested and secure in her environment. A valid need! So we brainstormed a few ways she could created this TODAY. She came up with the idea of buying a very nice scented candle, as a start. After that? Perhaps buying a home would be next.
Listening to your emotions opens you up to a wealth of information on how to better meet your short-term and long-term needs. This enables you to weave these factors into your overall approach for your career, business, relationships and life.
This creates a life that FEELS fulfilled, versus empty and lacking -- regardless of outward appearances. A person can make a million dollars a year, be married, have kids, be a supermodel, and be MISERABLE if the aren't fulfilled by their life. As miserable as you would imagine a homeless person with no money, friends, or possessions to feel -- unfilled is a feeling that is not related to what you own, how you look, your accomplishments, etc. It's a sign that your life is misaligned. You are on the wrong path. No matter how much you'd LIKE this to be your path, it ISN'T and you've gotta let go of it. Get on the RIGHT PATH for you, and you'll feel bliss and thrive, finding success greater than you could ever imagine.
Success is not: what others think, outer appearances, what your parents want you to do, what the neighbors want you to do, what you saw on TV.
Success is: feeling what's right for you, discovering your strengths, finding the RIGHT path for you and WALKING down it (despite any fears you may have had), inner wisdom, learning from your mistakes, meeting your true self, and meeting the life that is yours, and watching your DREAMS unfold and become reality. Meeting your future; the one you are meant for.
Most of us (especially my CEOs and business clients), feel they THRIVE on ignoring and dismissing their feelings, to stay "logical." Just the OPPOSITE happens actually! The more you bottle feelings, the more likely it is that they'll result in rage, sobbing fits, rude comments to others, passive aggressiveness, etc. You LOSE control of your emotions when you bottle them. Deal with your feelings on your own, and you'll be in control of how you handle situations with others.
My client today was a good example. A very successful and logical woman, she'd felt for over 10 years a need to "nest" and feel "settled." She'd ignored this feeling, until she got to such an unhappy point she could no longer stand it. Yet, she still wanted to bottled it. "Let me get this emotion out real quick, and then we can disregard it," were close to her words. It should have been, "Let's discover this feeling real quick, so we can use the vitally important message it's sending."
The message her emotion of sadness was sending? She needed to feel nested and secure in her environment. A valid need! So we brainstormed a few ways she could created this TODAY. She came up with the idea of buying a very nice scented candle, as a start. After that? Perhaps buying a home would be next.
Listening to your emotions opens you up to a wealth of information on how to better meet your short-term and long-term needs. This enables you to weave these factors into your overall approach for your career, business, relationships and life.
This creates a life that FEELS fulfilled, versus empty and lacking -- regardless of outward appearances. A person can make a million dollars a year, be married, have kids, be a supermodel, and be MISERABLE if the aren't fulfilled by their life. As miserable as you would imagine a homeless person with no money, friends, or possessions to feel -- unfilled is a feeling that is not related to what you own, how you look, your accomplishments, etc. It's a sign that your life is misaligned. You are on the wrong path. No matter how much you'd LIKE this to be your path, it ISN'T and you've gotta let go of it. Get on the RIGHT PATH for you, and you'll feel bliss and thrive, finding success greater than you could ever imagine.
Success is not: what others think, outer appearances, what your parents want you to do, what the neighbors want you to do, what you saw on TV.
Success is: feeling what's right for you, discovering your strengths, finding the RIGHT path for you and WALKING down it (despite any fears you may have had), inner wisdom, learning from your mistakes, meeting your true self, and meeting the life that is yours, and watching your DREAMS unfold and become reality. Meeting your future; the one you are meant for.
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