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Why I'm no longer Recommending Match.com to My Clients

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Sorry Match.com, but I'm not longer recommending you to clients.  I was a loyal fan of Match.com for over the last 10 years, as it was clearly the leader, and it was easy to use. I've always recommended it both to friends and coaching clients, I've used it myself, and I developed a long list of techniques for both men and women to optimize their experience. However, with new design changes, I will no longer be recommending match.com to any of my clients. It's now overly slow, organized in a repetitive way where it's very difficult to get to the real information you need -- emails aren't stored -- winks are hard to access. And everything is put onto tiny screens where you can only see 4-5 people at a time and have to click on "next" and wait. There is no reason to use such a slow system that will probably add up to 5 or more hours of your time online dating per week. The past Match.com allowed you to quickly scan through a whole list of hundre

Where a River Opens Up Into the Ocean -- The Day Everything Changes

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No matter how long you've had a problem,  there is a day when everything changes. When your blinders come off and you see how beautiful the world really is. When the sunlight which was blocked from you suddenly becomes ALL YOURS. When everything you've longed for and thought was impossible, simply becomes possible -- even better, it simply EXISTS. Now. And it happens without a huge effort. Without decades of painstaking work. It happens because of a new awareness. It happens when you remove your blinders. We all have a unique set of binders, and understanding yours gives you the power to simply remove them. It's like we spend our whole lives in a little row boat tied to the side of a river. We think that's the whole world. But we've never had the bravery to untie that rope, and let ourselves float quickly downstream in those rapids, perhaps being pulled right over a waterfall as we crash down into foamy rough water, but then we are pulled gently into the mou

Start-up Entrepreneurs, Traders, etc. -- How to Prepare Loved Ones for Your New Career

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So you're all set to start a business, jump into trading, or have otherwise discovered your passion in life! Amazing. Your energized by your newly found purpose in life and ready to take over the world with your new plans.  However, the close people in your life may not feel equally thrilled.  This is a common occurrence for my clients when they start or expand a business, become a financial trader, or go after any number of other pursuits. You've probably noticed some tension with your romantic partner, friends and family members, who may not understand your willingness to throw caution to the wind -- especially if they stand to be negatively impacted financially, lack of time together, etc. This doesn't mean your dreams are not viable, special, or doable. However... If you don't want to end up alone and huddled in a corner, it's important to really see the situation from your loved ones' perspective and prepare them for changes with with a series of c