NYC Life Coach, Julie Melillo

Choose your thoughts for the day, the way you'd select your outfit. You don't tell people, "I can't change this outfit. I've been wearing it for a month. It's just what I wear." No. You can change your clothes, and you can change your thoughts. When you find thoughts that no longer support your goals, simply change them. Yes, thoughts become habits. This is a good thing, because your NEW thoughts will become a strong good habit in 2-3 weeks. HOW TO DO IT 1) What thoughts will support your goals? 2) REPEAT THESE THOUGHTS to yourself throughout your day. 3) DON'T BLOCK YOUR FEELINGS. On the flip side, listen to your feelings and feel them completely, without judging. Then correct any untrue thoughts. Example: 1) Today I'm going to eat healthy because it makes me feel good. 2) Repeat this thought during day to self. Write it on a sticky at your desk. Set your cell phone to alert you to the thought several times a day -- just set it as an item on your

Signs you're dating a sociopath: http://www.yourtango.com/201179136/10-signs-youre-dating-sociopath 1. Charisma and charm. They're smooth talkers, always have an answer, never miss a beat. They seem to be very exciting. 2. Enormous ego. They act like the smartest, richest or most successful people around. They may actually come out and tell you that. 3. Overly attentive. They call, text and e-mail constantly. They want to be with you every moment. They resent time you spend with your family and friends. 4. Jekyll and Hyde personality. One minute they love you; the next minute they hate you. Their personality changes like flipping a switch. 5. Blame others. Nothing is ever their fault. They always have an excuse. Someone else causes their problems. 6. Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. They tell stupid lies. They tell outrageous lies. They lie when they'd be better off telling the truth. Is It Possible To Spot A Liar? 7. Intense eye con

To my daters... One in 25 people is a sociopath. So that charming person you're sitting across from at dinner? They may be missing an important part of their brain -- literally. Sociopaths lack a portion of their brain which is responsibly for producing feelings of guilt -- they are physically disabled , and this is not treatable. This enables them to do harm to others and feel no remorse. It all comes down to capabilities, ambition, and what the sociopath wants out of life -- some sociopaths might steal a friend's $20, or lie about something small, while others are CEOs who steal millions of people's money. One sociopath might delight in quietly bullying others at work, just to watch people become upset. While another sociopath may be violent and kill people or animals without a second thought. Scary. It's all shades of gray, but the central idea is that sociopaths don't feel remorse. They can kill your dog, or steal your spouse, or lie to your face -- and sleep s