NYC Life Coach, Julie Melillo

When things don't go our way and we realize that a situation has taken a turn that no longer works for us, we need to re-access. And after we do this, letting go of a situation or thought that is no longer helping us evolve is often the answer.  Letting go is something that is difficult for all of us, regardless of where we are in life. Here are some tips and ideas to make it a bit easier to move on to something you know deep down is a better choice for you. 1) Moving on means letting go -- Try to think of what you're doing as going after something new, instead of losing out on something that is gone. Do mourn your loss fully (whether that is a job, living situation, friendship, relationship, etc.). But keep in mind that you are mourning in order to create balance and space in your life to bring in new fulfillment, happiness and rays of sunshine -- life can't stay dark for very long before light sneaks in! 2) Your arms can only carry so much -- think of your arms as holdi...

In Life Coaching school, coaches learn the basics of the coaching process and ways to be most effective with clients -- but just knowing a fact and applying it in your work are two different things. In my experience, coaches don't usually intend harm by not following this list, they instead have not yet trained themselves how to be a coach. When I see this happening, it frustrates me, because it can take a client even LONGER to reach their goal when they work with a coach like this. An ineffective coach can even create additional roadblocks for a client. it can cause the client to question their own ability to think and solve problems -- the very opposite of what should be accomplished: getting the client to trust themselves and their intuition. Anyone looking for a coach should keep these lists in mind, or forward to those you know who are looking for a coach. This applies to all areas of coaching. A COACH SHOULD NEVER.... Judge a client -- coaches are not experts. Clients are ...

I hate ruts, and I've been in many myself. It can seem like everything is blah and gray and whoooo caaaares...and then that builds on itself. Especially with those pretty leaves falling and cold weather to come -- it's a low motivation time of year. What this process does is sap away your ability to create new possibilities, which makes it seem like things are even more boring. This is your reality for now. Later you'll be back to your creative, motivated self. But just for now, accept that the world looks gray and boring and sucks -- even though it's possible to change this pretty easily later on. But for now, accept that this is your world. So what's happening now? Let's focus on what it's like to be at the center of a rut. Usually, this stagnation happens when part of you wants to grow, and part of you...doesn't. The part that doesn't want to grow starts trying to convince you that there is just nuthin' out there! Look! Nothing. The world is b...

Choosing is powerful. It's easy to forget how vast our ability to change our own lives is. The fact is, we have a choice in everything -- every situation, every circumstance, every failure. We decide how we will respond and what choice we will make -- we have that ability to make powerful decisions every second we are alive. Sometimes life brings disasters. When these disasters happen in our personal lives, we often take the blame and give up. Natural disasters somehow seem different don't they? But they're not. Things happen. What if the US reacted to natural disasters the way we often react to problems in our own lives? If there was a devastating flood somewhere in the US, what if the officials sat back and said "Darn. I guess we are really unlucky. We would help, but we're not very good at this 'rescue' stuff. Hopefully all those people had swimming lessons, and we'll try to save some people next year when we've had more time to get around to it...