When we lose something

The things we lose, they fall away like fragments of a statue as it's being sculpted. what lies beneath is the beautiful form, that only removing parts of the marble could create.

We all have things we need to lose, in order to gain what we want. Sometimes losing these things, or people, is extremely painful. It is painful to carve into that statue. But it's also what allows the statue to take form.

What do you need to lose?

Losing weight, to gain health.
Bad relationships to gain good ones.
Anger, to gain acceptance.
Fear to gain courage.

What do you need to allow to be chipped off of your statue so you can shine?

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