NYC Life Coach, Julie Melillo

Yes, we all know the standard "dating safety tips." We know it's important to have your first date in a public place, right? At least I hope we do. Going to some guy's apartment so he can "make you dinner" on your howaboutwe date is like wearing a sign that says "This is crazy, but kill me maybe?" Guys don't typically feel they have to give this topic much thought. But trust me, you do. Here are the top 5 dating dangers you've never thought about, to keep an eye out for. 1) He brings a female friend (or friends). Don't let your guard down. There's an inclination to think, oh, this is another girl, so she'll make sure nothing crazy happens to me in this situation. Especially if the girl becomes your instant friend and invites you to another location (like an apartment), be your normal cautious self. Don't assume because this is a girl, or that because there is a group of people, that you're any safer than being with a nea...

Goals and dreams are overwhelming -- starting a new business, changing to a completely new career, finding the right person and starting a family, moving across the globe, writing a novel, becoming famous, making more money than you ever dreamed of. Change is one of the hardest things, for all of us. A new goal, especially a large one, will feel enormous, confusing, hard to grasp, and at times -- impossible. Even for my clients who have launched numerous successful businesses, who have become famous in their fields already -- yes even they feel this way. The pressure can feel HUGE. You have fear of failure, fear of success, and so much more...yikes! That's where the 5-minute tasks comes in. Anyone can complete a task that takes only 5 minutes. It's small, simple, and if it gets too challenging, you can give up after that 5-minute mark. This is the key, because all goals are reached after completing tasks. So if you're too blocked to complete your tasks, you of course won...

To achieve any goal first and foremost requires a willingness to change your thoughts. Our lives are the result of our thinking. EVERY single thing in your life resulted from a thought you had. The chair you're sitting in -- you thought to purchase it, accept it as a gift, or you thought to accept the job that provided the chair, or you thought to visit the person's home you are sitting in...etc. You had a THOUGHT that resulted in sitting in this chair. It was a choice. This is SO cool because it means that you are POWERFUL because you CREATE what comes into your life via your thoughts. And when you no longer want to sit in this chair, you will CHOOSE a new thought. And it will result in an action -- standing up. The computer code (thought) runs the program (actions) -- so our thoughts results in actions that run our lives. This means you can create anything you want -- a new business, a better career, an invention, a better relationship (or ending a bad relationsh...

Are you picturing the glamorous entrepreneur lifestyle? Thinking of starting your own business? Most new entrepreneurs (at least initially) begin working from home. Make sure you are prepared for the downsides of the switch from busy corporate office, to your living room. Being prepared can help you sidestep the shock of the change, which can leave many new entrepreneurs feeling confused or depressed. You are isolated at home -- this is one of the biggest problems for new entrepreneurs. Even the most introverted person will be thrown for a loop when they find themselves alone ALL day, with a laptop and a dream. There is no friendly banter or hello or goodbye to the receptionist and co-workers. Fix it -- You must create a social life for yourself. I believe you need 5 friendly interactions per day to stay in a happy, centered place. I make a point to schedule in plenty of social time with friends, volunteering, and when I meet with clients I always greet the security people wa...