NYC Life Coach, Julie Melillo

I notice that a lot of new entrepreneurs are plagued by negative thoughts. As they progress, these old thoughts are overcome by new, more action-oriented thoughts. Think about what some of your old, negative thoughts were that held you back -- in business, in dating, in any area. How did you overcome those negative thoughts? Did you see the situation in a new way? Decide to take action despite your fears and "do it anyway"? Did you forget the old thought over time? Whatever you did to change that thought worked for you, and you can replicate your own success in other areas. For instance, if you thought you were a looser in 9th grade, but then decided that was no longer true in 10th grade, you have experienced transforming your thoughts. You can do the same thing now. If you think you're dumb with business, you can also transform that thought in order to create a feeling of confidence in your ability to start a business. It's the same process! And you don't have t...

Do you know that one of the most common concerns I hear from clients, regardless of whether they are a CEO, entrepreneur, or other successful person, is a concern about what other people think. *If I start this business, will they think it's a dumb idea? *If I show confidence, will others feel threatened or jealous? *If I fail, what will they think? *What happens if they say no? *What happens if I get rejected? We all experience feelings like this when taking new risks, but it is reassuring to know that even the world's most successful and personally attractive people feel that same way you do! The difference between an extremely successful person and a moderately successful one, is the ability to overcome the human concern of caring what others think. That said, please note this does mean you still need to act with a conscience and consider others. Obviously, don't do something you think will piss people off , or that you wouldn't want done to you. This blog is address...

When you hold tightly to the outcome and identify with it, your ego gets caught up in the experience, and FEAR becomes a bigger problem than it needs to be. 1) I'll take this action 2) If it's a good result, I'm a great person! If it's a bad result, I'm a looser. How common is this thinking? It's pretty much the way society teaches us to think. However, the result of this way of thinking, is that it prevents you from doing NEW things or taking the actions you need to take. It keeps you stuck in a place where anything new is to be feared, because it's an opportunity to fail (and in your own mind, become a "looser.") For most people who don't take a lot of new risks, it's not much of a problem. For people who are suddenly faced with NEEDING to take many risks, entrepreneurs, CEOs, new singles on the dating scene, job seekers, or even a person looking to make new friends -- or anyone thrown into new waters, it makes it a HUGE risk to try ANYTH...

Video -- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ULlh-B35uY Determine this to help you become more efficient during your day. 1. Your strength is one of the two. Big picture focused You enjoy themes, theory, the meaning behind things, forecasting the future, possibilities, brainstorming, likelihoods, what could be, concepts. You might not even notice the color on the walls or how food tastes in a restaurant, as you're absorbed in noticing the overall gist. Tend to talk about concepts or overall big pictures, "Their house was upscale, with a spacious layout." Stressed when have to focus on needed daily practical tasks. Present moment focused You enjoy working with tangibles, things happening today, action-oriented, detail-focused, right now, the five senses, good memory for detail and facts. Practical. Notice the detail of a restaurant -- the color of the walls, the material of the table, etc. Tends to discuss "real" things, or to mention the layout of a room "Their...