NYC Life Coach, Julie Melillo

Big presentation? Job interview? Date with potential? Need more confidence fast? Of course you do. Even the boldest of us can use an extra shot of flair. Here's how. It's all in the mindset. 1. Let go of the outcome! You don't control it. Example: you can't hire yourself, agree to a date with yourself, pay yourself money, change the results of an exam, etc. Those are outcomes and you CAN'T control outcomes. So don't beat yourself up about what you can't control -- the end result is NOT in your control. 2. INSTEAD: What IS in your control are the actions you take. Take all the shots you would take if you weren't scared. Do them the BEST you can at that time. 3. Make a list of "fearless" things you would do if you were ridiculous confident! Do them. Even if you are scared. Focus on DOING the action, FORGETTING the outcome. Doing another action. This will increase your odds for eventually reaching your end goal faster, with less frustration (sinc...

Enjoy this poem about the struggle and joy of change. I think the coaching process is truly amazing and wanted to try to capture a bit of it in this poem -- I hope you enjoy it! :) Wishing you much success in your goals. You can also watch me reading this poem on You Tube. Moment blurring past won't let me back in when I wrap this new paper all around a gift and here we go won't look back no a tree stretches out roots grabbing soil like it should strong grip like ancient things flowing right through my bloodstream and all the strength of ancestors brings us to this point this hesitation survival is easy when you live blue sky swirling white clouds mix easy as lying down it begins now feet sink into grass into soil like a seed standing waiting to grow always somewhat unpredictable yet as certain as the seasons impossible to contain like the rain a choice to yell or hush intentions behind a whisper to get up and leave or stand still like plaster behind tall things hiding and I w...

We all have an area of life we feel lazy about -- maybe you have clutter. Perhaps you neglect your social calendar. Maybe you slack at work. Whatever it is, if you'd prefer it be different, you have the power to change. Don't believe me? Think you're "lazy" for good? Prove yourself wrong. Pick one small action -- it can be tiny. Do it right now. Lazy about clutter? Throw away one envelope. I'm serious! One envelope is all you need to begin to change a habit. What is one tiny action you can do right now? Prove your "lazy" self wrong. You can choose to do things differently whenever you'd like. :)

Need strength to tackle a challenge or realize your dreams? Here's the most powerful way to accomplish that. Choose to not fit yourself in another’s mold. Be whatever you are, just because you’d like to be and know that is GOOD. Others will have to adapt to that. You NEED to be what you are. Allow yourself to be like a classy gorgeous bottle of champagne -- let yourself uncork and bubble over with joy -- and don’t allow anyone to bottle you up! No matter how afraid you are of losing them -- if they can’t stand letting you bubble over as yourself, they can’t allow “you” to exist, so you have already lost them in the first place anyway -- since not allowing you to be you means they aren’t really with “you.” So you never had them in the first place. Bubble over with kindness, love and joy like a fountain -- in your own personal way, whatever that is. If you can tap into the strength of accepting yourself, you'll build a strong, powerful foundation of confidence -- the kind that tu...

Have you ever taken a really stupid action when you knew better? We've all done it. But why? Why do we not take the right actions when we need to? Being smart and using logic aren't enough to accomplish this -- there is something more important to being successful. FUN FACT: Your current beliefs are resulting in your current actions. If you're not getting results you want, your beliefs are not supporting your actions. What are some of these "stupid actions?" Let's say your goal is to get a great new job. STUPID ACTIONS: Eating a lot of cheetos, NOT applying for jobs. Distracting self with reality TV shows, binge drinking, crying, complaining, blaming the economy, feeling frozen, begging friends for money, fearing living on the street. You know these actions won't lead to getting a fabulous new career! You're smarter than that. But there is a reason smart people do stupid things. Let me explain why and how to change it. Why we do stupid things: Imagine...